on one couple's journey into truth
- danni | snatch.land
- Oct 14
- 3 min read
What to Expect from a Transformational Couples Retreat in Portugal (or explore international locations)
They arrived separately....
Not physically - they shared the same flight, the same check-in desk, the same sea-view suite at The Estoril Vintage Hotel, one of several five-star locations along Portugal’s Lisbon–Cascais coastline where SNATCH retreats are held
— but internally, they were worlds apart
Let’s call them Ari and Elise
They loved each other, but something had gone quiet between them
Years of trying to make sense of it through talking had left them both exhausted
They’d googled for answers, read the books, even tried to 'improve communication'
Nothing touched the deeper ache: the absence of aliveness + connection
They were looking for romance. But by the end of these 5 days, they realised that what they were really looking for was deeper truth between them
The Landing
The first evening was complex. A lot of background anger + resentment found space to breath and reveal itself in this trusted setting
But over the next few days, everything softened
Through somatic relationship coaching, they learned to recognise what safety actually feels like in the body — the difference between connection and perfection
Through conscious intimacy practices, they remembered how to meet without armour
Through trauma-informed tantric facilitation, they saw that what they’d called 'distance' was really protection — brilliant once, but now unnecessary
That their partner's triggering behaviours were actually a portal rather than a problem - into deeper self-understanding, love and healing
What Happens During a Transformational Couples Retreat?
A transformational couples retreat is not therapy.
It’s where the body leads, the nervous system becomes the map + intimacy begins again through presence rather than performance
Each day unfolds as a sequence of guided rituals — breath, touch, movement, and self-inquiry — held within a luxurious, private environment designed for deep rest and respectful honesty
The Threshold
On the third day, something shifted
Not fireworks — but more presence + awareness of each other
Ari stopped reaching for reassurance. Elise stopped holding back.
They began to see each other more clearly, without demand or defence
It wasn’t therapy. It was truth in motion — where the nervous system starts to trust what love feels like again. Those small touches of contact that flow effortlessly, the lazy snoozes on the beach in each other arms afternoons, the cheeky smiles as they remember warm memories of past anniversaries.
Integration
When the retreat ended, the work didn’t. It rarely does.
They left with the Lovers Ritual Guide — a continuation of this process:
regulation rituals, body-based communication, and practices to keep their intimacy alive in the everyday
Their mentoring continues — not as maintenance, but as integration
They’re rebuilding their relationship from the inside out: slower, more honest, less curated
For couples like Ari and Elise, this transformational couples retreat in Portugal became the beginning of something far more real...
What Transformation Really Means
A transformational couples retreat isn’t about becoming new people...
It’s about remembering the parts of you that connection made you forget — and creating a space where both can belong
At SNATCH, this is the work: turning tension into tenderness, protection into presence, and love into something you can actually feel day to day with your beloved
Explore our luxury couples retreats in Portugal, Lisbon & Cascais to begin your own journey.
DANNI LOVEFOX
SNATCH | Transformational Retreats & Mentoring
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