"The act of transgression breaks through the barriers of fear and shame,
and that moment of liberation creates a charge of energy on which we can ride to heights of pleasure and ecstatic experience. It also asserts a sense of self as independent of social norms, a sense of individuality"
– John Hawken
This part of our journey together reflects upon the essential question:
what is your basic attitude towards your sexuality, and as a result, life in general?
Is it fear or is it excitement?
We can look at fear as 'contracted excitement'... and this existential predicament is the focus of John Hawken's Dark Eros
How to transform and expand states such as 'power over', resistance, guilt, anger and withdrawal
into 'power with', love, surrender, lust and being in contact?
Can you allow yourself to expand the kick from indulging in the 'forbidden' into a whole-body relaxed experience of pleasure?
Or is there a limitation in needing immediate release from this contraction?
Moving away from tension around sex, perversion, power and transgression into a relaxed playfulness and acceptance of all the parts of you so often shunned is key to this part of our journey together
Being able to explore the roles of dominance and submission within a conscious setting such as this has the potential to release us from any unconscious binding to either role in our daily lives
Embrace the potency of focused ritual and surrendered states for self-knowledge and understanding,
as I guide and support you to see deeper into yourself
This path allows you to meet face to face with your shadow parts
Those places in you that you avoid, project, hide, reject
Make contact with repressed anger, shame, grief or desire
Dare to enter into those parts of yourself that you fear,
finding freedom within the awareness and release that you so long for
What is consent? Wheel of consent overview
How to navigate power dynamics and boundaries
Yes - No - Maybe - Yes, but...
Recognizing, speaking, embodying your no
The pleasure of rejection
Understanding trauma responses and how they show up in you or a play partner
Practice play exchange using embodied consent
SHADOW SOMATICS TASTER
over two sessions of up to 2,5hrs
SHADOW SOMATICS WEEKEND
a journey of up to 10hrs
at my berlin studio
at a location of your choice
with the additional expense of travel and accommodation
A NOTE ON BOUNDARIES
These sessions are about embracing and releasing the shadow to come further into the light of self-acceptance and self-love
I follow the tantric paradigm where violence, force or pretence have no place
Dark Eros work is structured around fostering consciousness within the shadows of ourselves and is NOT a bdsm session
Appointments will be confirmed after a telephone consultation as to your intention
As your coach and guide I do not undress in sessions
Session times are from arrival to departure and allow around an hour for an opening discussion and/or extended coaching, showering if desired, explorative bodywork and closing reflections