What is the idea of a tantra massage? What should you expect from the experience?
Perhaps you have heard about it and are considering trying out a session but have concerns as to whether it will be the right thing for you. I have put together some thoughts as to the main themes of a tantra massage.
BRINGING TOGETHER THE HEART AND THE SEXUALITY
There is a focus on linking together the energies of the heart and the Lingam/Yoni (sanskrit names for the male/female sex organs), bringing warmth and emotion to the sexuality. Often these two important centers are cut off from each other energetically leading to a disconnection or dissociation from the added power of emotion that can flow within our sexuality, or vice versa.
BUILDING SEXUAL ENERGY IN ORDER TO SPREAD IT THROUGHOUT THE BODY
Sexual energy is stimulated through resting a hand on the sexual chakra (located on the front side of the body at the pubic bone and on the back side of the body at the sacrum), tapping around the sacrum, deep massage of the pelvic floor as well as (if desired) touch directly on the sex itself. This energy is then brought upwards through a central energetic channel in your body to the head. Along this channel the energy can diffuse into your organs and tissues as needed to revitalize and refresh your body. Using the energy built-up in the sex organs for life processes is a central concept in Tantra – we consider the sex to be like a turbine which fires up to fuel not only your body but also your creativity and access to spiritual power. For this reason there is no shame around sexuality in Tantra, it is an energy we can bring positively into our lives once we learn how to relax into arousal and explore it's possibilities within our bodies.
THE SESSION IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO CONNECT TO YOURSELF AND EXPLORE YOUR INNER REALM
I say within your body because typical expectations of a session involving sexual energy are to engage with your partner on the outside once aroused. The massage is not an exchange, rather the giver acts as a guide to gently lead you around your body and through the intensity of building and spreading the sexual energy. Let your mind be free of thoughts as you follow the touch and find sensuality in new forms all over. Feel yourself opening as you take in a deep breath, and the freedom of letting go as you exhale. Try breathing together with your masseuse and feel the mysterious melding of giver and receiver within the rising energetic wave. There are many possibilities to explore as your surrender deepens and sensation can expand.
TOUCH IS MINDFUL AND PRESENT - WITHOUT INTENTION BEHIND IT
The massage is given from the heart – it is performed mindfully and slowly and can feel soft, sweet and sensual as well as exciting. The giver is channelling the experience, offering themselves as a vessel for spirit to travel through so that you can feel the transmission of this pure energy. The masseuse can be in meditation with no thoughts or plans to arouse you but simply being and flowing, sharing the bliss they are experiencing with you. You are free to fully receive this beautiful feeling.
THERE IS STILLNESS AS WELL AS MOVEMENT
Whereas an erotic massage will be focused on action and sexual excitement, in a tantra massage energy will be built-up to then take a pause in order to allow you to ‘digest’ the sensations, letting them travel around the body. Energy can be sensed only when the ‘doing’ stops and everything is let go of, especially the muscles holding tensions that block energetic movement. This surrender allows energy to be sensed. Tantra massage is focused on allowing you to experience the flow of energy within your body.
THERE IS AN OPENNESS TO TRYING SOMETHING NEW
Tantra is about self-development and a massage session can also include bodywork techniques to release tensions along the neck and spine, reminding held energies to move. Particularly beneficial can be a deep tissue massage around the pelvis, hip bones and sex organs to restore blood flow, refresh the lymph and allow the release of toxins from the tissues as well as clearing any issues from the past held onto in the form of tension. Results from investing in such bodywork treatments could include feeling more grounded inside your body, a greater capacity for sensual sensitivity as well as a general feeling of your sex being more integrated with the rest of your body and a deeper part of yourself. Men often find they can have strengthened erections through increased blood flow to the area and are more able to delay their sexual release thanks to the release of muscle tensions from the pelvis.
If this sounds like the path you are looking to step upon, I would be pleased to know more about you.
I love to work over a series of sessions as we explore these themes at your readiness and pace, developing a trust between us.
If you are not able to make it to Berlin to meet, or you are interested in these ideas but are not sure where to start, here are some useful links to explore:
I look forward to hearing from you!